The All Important 5 Ps Of A Successful Date

man and woman on a dock drinking wine Dating in 2017 is becoming more sparse.  I’m stuck between deciding that people don’t care and admitting that I don’t even know if we know how.  I gathered up my thoughts and ended up with 5 things that I think are most important about dating and they all seemed to start with the letter P.

  • Presence

In mind, body, and soul you need to be there.  Give the person that you’re trying to win over your full attention.  Match your facial expressions to what you feel when they’re speaking.  Give them plenty of eye contact.  And when it permits, touch them in a warm manner in places like the arm and side.   Ask questions and respond open-endedly to leave no doubt about your interest in the person who’s spending their time on you.

woman and man kissing and doing yoga  In mind, body, and soul you need to be there.  Give the person that you’re trying to win over your full attention.  Match your facial expressions to what you feel when they’re speaking.  Give them plenty of eye contact.  And when it permits, touch them in a warm manner in places like the arm and side.   Ask questions and respond open-endedly to leave no doubt about your interest in the person who’s spending their time on you.

  • Place

man and woman on a dock by a lake surrounded by mountainsDon’t just go on a date to anywhere.  Go to a place where you and the other person will feel comfortable and be able to communicate effectively.  That usually means a well-lit place that is public, but not crowded and loud enough where your conversation will not be overheard, but quiet enough where you don’t have to scream.  Going to a place that you know well that is easy for both of you to access is great for a date.  An ideal date spot will allow you to be confident and not exclude the wants and needs of your date.  A beautiful scenery also gives you the opportunity to sweep her off her heals before you even say a word.

  • Purpose

This is not to say that you need to be ready to marry the person that you’re out with, but you should have a a baseline set of expectations for the outing.  Is this the “get to know them” date, the “see if this is going anywhere date”, or are you out with your girlfriend.  That purpose is what helps drive your actions and also sets a precedent for future dealings. You don’t want to send mixed signals so decide what you want and make sure you communicate through actions and words.

  • Progression man kissing a woman while holding coffee

Spontaneity is a great thing, but every date should have a plan.  That plan can even be your backup, but an indecisive date can usually lead to disaster.  Make sure that you know how each person is getting there, where you’re eating/meeting, if it’s a one stop date, and how each of you plans on getting home.  This is especially important when alcohol is involved.  Not only is it dangerous to drive under the influence, alcohol also tends to make us forget things.  Having a plan in place ahead of time is a nice line of insurance.

  • Pleasureman and woman holding hands at the beach

No matter what anyone says, they date for pleasure.  Whether it be the pleasure of company, attention, or something at the end of the night is up to you.  Make sure that you’re pleasuring your date.  A great relationship starts with tons of engagement.  Give this person a reason to want to be in your presence all the time.  Great ways to pleasure your date are compliments, great conversation, nice dance moves, and even a little bit of competition.  Being pleasurable company is probably the most important part of dating, so pay extra attention to this “P”.